Purpose: This activity can be used as a way to initiate a conversation about the topic of honesty and dishonesty and, more specifically, what role dishonesty may have played and continues to play in their relationships both personal and professional. It can also be used as an introductions exercise, especially when there is a mix of existing and newer members.
Materials: none needed
- Facilitator informs the group that everyone will go around and share 3 things about themselves, 2 of them true and one a lie. Group members will take turns trying to guess which statement is the lie.
- Facilitator encourages group members to think of things that no one in the group already knows about them or could easily guess about them. Group members are also encouraged to be creative in what they share about themselves and to make sure that the lie they tell is believable as any good lie should be.
- Each group member goes around one by one sharing their 3 “facts” and then group members attempt to guess which “fact” is the lie. After several guesses, the group member reveals which is the lie.
- Show of hands, how many people have ever told a lie in a relationship?
- What is the purpose of telling a lie? (possible answers: conceal something, keep from getting into trouble, protection)
- What is the difference between a white lie, an out-and-out lie, and a lie of omission? Is one any better or worse than the other, in your opinion?
- What kinds of lies have you told or been told having to do with drug use or abuse or other harmful behaviors you’ve participated in?
- What kinds of lies have you told yourself?
- What sorts of trouble has lying cost you?
- How do you know when someone is telling a lie?
Tips and Considerations:
- The topic of dishonesty or lying can be a delicate matter for some. The more a facilitator can normalize dishonesty as a way to cope with conflicting thoughts and feelings regarding substance abuse or participating in other harmful behaviors, the more likely group members will feel able to genuinely open up and discuss the topic.
Starts the learning around: Relationships; Communication